Hi, It is there first dog and I think she has unreal expectations of what to receive from a 17 month old boy (dog of course).
She has now warned her children that he might need to go away for a while and that they are all going to have to change their approach to him, (so that's something at least). The 9 year old daughter was distraught and chose to spend the night on the dog bed with him!!! My poor friend doesn't know which way to turn, short of me moving in with her for a while and literaterally taking over, I'm not sure she's strong enough to treat him as a 'proper' dog and to stop feeling bad because he isn't allowed the run of the house.
I've put her in touch with another Cockeronline member and provided her with numbers of behaviourist passed on via COL, thanks, PM if anyone hears from her, so I can stop nagging her to get this sorted.