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Title: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Beanie on June 28, 2007, 10:01:52 AM: As Many of you know we have had various problems with Maisy and her behaviour over the last few months. It had escalated and got out of control, things which I had not even posted on here such as seriously biting people, flying into rages over nothing and in the end badly biting Rob's face on Sunday for no reason (in fact she even displayed it to the vet on Tuesday who was very shocked). I cannot explain it all now, in fact I don't want to cause I don't want to remember her like that. We consulted our vet and a behaviourist, they advised that in their opinion Maisy had "Rage Syndrome" and would never ever be trained out of it and things would get worse. She was not re-homeable because of the extent of the problem and the best thing we could do for her would be to put her to sleep.

So yesterday at 09.40 after spending one last happy evening with Maisy we had her put to sleep, it was the hardest thing which I have ever had to do in my life and it feels as though my heart is broken. We stayed with her until the end. To see her yesterday morning chasing the birds around the field filled my heart with sadness, she looked at me as they were injecting her as if to plead with me not to do it. I wish so much I could have saved her, I wish it could have been different.

The thing is I know we are partly to blame, we brought a non KC registered dog, we did not see her mother or all the other things we should have done. I thought I was saving her from that place but in the end nothing could save her. I wish I had found this site earlier and researched better but I didn't and although I regret it, I do not regret one minute spent with my Maisy.

I know many of you will have opinions on what I have just said, the non KC, the Rage syndrome which some people do not think exists. Please do not debate it here and now, until you have seen it with your own eyes or been in my shoes it is hard to believe. but believe this, I would not have given up on her no matter how much training, time or money it would have taken, if it could have been done I would have done it. Some of you may say I deserve it for being so stupid in the first place, but I saw her and fell in love with her and maybe it was just meant to be that we would give her a happy four months of love, fun and care.

And so to my darling Maisy Moo. I am so so sorry. I miss every bone of you, we all do. our home is not the same without you and we will never ever forget you. I hope wherever you are now there are birdies to chase, dogs to play with and people to love. chicken for every meal and lots and lots of carpet to chew. you will never be forgotton by any of us and every tear I have cried has been worth it to have your love for the time we did, I wish you were still here with all my heart.

Thank you all for your help and advise over the last months. Good luck for the future and I hope you all have lots of happy time with your cockers.

Nina
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: cazza on June 28, 2007, 10:05:28 AM: :'( :'( I'm so sorry Nina that it ended like this for you
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Post by: Magic Star on June 28, 2007, 10:16:02 AM: :'( :'(

Oh my gosh, i'm so desperately sorry to read this Nina :'(

Run free at the bridge sweet Maisy :luv:
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Post by: Jane S on June 28, 2007, 10:17:49 AM: So sorry to hear this news - I had no idea things had got to this stage :( Sleep tight Maisy :luv:
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Post by: caro on June 28, 2007, 10:17:55 AM: Nina I am SO SO sorry, my heart aches just reading it. I don't think you need to feel bad about what has happened - you did all you could have done. Thinking of you x
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Post by: sarah25 on June 28, 2007, 10:20:58 AM: Sorry to hear your sad news Nina :'(
RIP Maisy :luv: :luv:

xx
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Post by: Sarah.H on June 28, 2007, 10:21:38 AM: I'm so sorry for you :'( :'( I'm sure you've done everything you could for her.
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Post by: Beth on June 28, 2007, 10:22:55 AM: :'( :'( :'(

I'm sorry too, not many things make me tearful, but i'm so incredibly sad for you all.

I hope you and your family are coping as best you can, my thoughts are with you. :'(
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Post by: loujo on June 28, 2007, 10:25:18 AM: :'( :'( :'( - So sorry.

Thinking of you and your family. :-* If you ever need any support or anything talk to us COLers or feel free to PM me.

Sleep tight Maisy.
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Post by: Luvly on June 28, 2007, 10:28:12 AM: Im sorry to Hear that Maisy was Pts :'( :'( . Hope your hubbys Facial wounds heal quickley .
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Post by: Steelygirl on June 28, 2007, 10:29:08 AM: SO sorry for you and Maisy. Thinking of you. :'(
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Post by: lexi on June 28, 2007, 10:30:00 AM: Quote from: Beanie on June 28, 2007, 10:01:52 AM
And so to my darling Maisy Moo. I am so so sorry. I miss every bone of you, we all do. our home is not the same without you and we will never ever forget you. I hope wherever you are now there are birdies to chase, dogs to play with and people to love. chicken for every meal and lots and lots of carpet to chew. you will never be forgotton by any of us and every tear I have cried has been worth it to have your love for the time we did, I wish you were still here with all my heart.

What a beautiful farewell! :'( :'( :'(

So very sorry for your loss.

Alexa
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Post by: ladylola on June 28, 2007, 10:32:14 AM: I'm So Sorry, I really do feel for you, :'( Hugs I think you have been very brave, don't blame yourself. You gave Maisy all of your love. I'm so sad for you. Run free maisy.
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Post by: CarolineL on June 28, 2007, 10:34:03 AM: Nina

I am so sorry to hear about Maisy - you have made me go all leaky and I am sat at my desk with tears streaming down my face.

I hope you are all ok.

Run free at the bridge Maisy Moo.

Caroline xxxxx
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Post by: skyesmum on June 28, 2007, 10:38:18 AM: So sorry to read your news.

Thinking of you at this dreadful time. Maisy looks beautiful, just remember the love you gave each other.

Gilly x
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Post by: lyn on June 28, 2007, 10:41:24 AM: oh nina, i am so so sorry for you and your family. we all know you did your best by maisy and maisy knows it too.
run free little girl. be happy at the bridge.
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Post by: *Lucy* on June 28, 2007, 10:48:22 AM: Nina,

I am so sorry to read this, i am crying like mad :'(

I know for a fact you did everything you could for Maisy as you were always on COL asking for help and advice!

I'm sure Maisy knows she had the most loving home and owners who cared for her greatly!

Thinking of you x

Have fun at the Bridge Maisy, run free...............
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: jools on June 28, 2007, 10:59:20 AM: Nina, I am so sorry to read this. Your experience mirrors the one we had with our first cocker,Millie. We had to have her PTS last year - very similar behaviour to Maisy.

I have to say, when I read your post about how Maisy was behaving, it sounded just like what Millie had been like at that age. Her biting was not a puppy bite either, it was a proper attack.

You have taken the most difficult decision any pet owner ever has to take. I still blame myself and miss my Millie every single day. I have not yet been able to look at a photo of her since she went. Dogs who have the history that Maisy had should not be rehomed. For me, rehoming Millie would have left her open to being punished for aggression that she had absolutely no control what so ever of.

If you're interested, and when you are feeling stronger, you can read about Millie's story in the looking for a puppy section of the forum.

One last thing. Please don't let your experience with Maisy put you off cockers for ever. They are fabulous little dogs. I learned so much from Millie. I now have 2 cockers who are true to breed in terms of temperament. They came from a good breeder and were well socialised.

Nina, I know in my heart that Millie just could not be saved, and I hope that, in time, you will appreciate that this was the case with Maisy too.

You, and your family, are in my thoughts.

Please PM me any time.

Take care.
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Post by: crunchie on June 28, 2007, 11:10:31 AM: So, so sorry to hear this. Thoughts are with you and all your family and I hope your husband's face soon heals. Don't feel bad, you did all you could for Maisy and didn't give up on her. She was lucky you found her. Thinking of you at this difficult time.
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Post by: drea on June 28, 2007, 11:20:45 AM: So sorry to read this post
Since I joined col back in febuary I remember reading post of maisy she looked beautiful, and was given loads of love by you. Sending warm wishes to you and your hubby.
Andrea
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Post by: emilyjw on June 28, 2007, 11:22:44 AM: Sorry to read this Nina, I know you did everything you could. I have leaky eyes just reading this, so it's impossible to imagine the heartache you are feeling.

Don't beat yourself up on this, you did everything you could. Remember the happy times. Like Jools said, don't let this put you off cockers they are wonderful little dogs and though you will never try and replace Maisy. Perhaps eventually you will find another little bundle that can start to fill the hole.

Thinking of you all,

Love Emily x
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Post by: Mary on June 28, 2007, 11:28:14 AM: How terribly sad. So sorry.
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Post by: pinkcarys on June 28, 2007, 11:30:11 AM: I'm so sorry to hear about Maisy. Thhinking of you.
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Post by: Silver Surfer (indiesnan) on June 28, 2007, 11:40:25 AM: So sorry to hear about Maisy. Thinking of you and your family.

...run free at the bridge Maisy. x
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Post by: PennyB on June 28, 2007, 11:54:45 AM: Sorry to hear this.

Hope Rob's wounds on his face heal quickly and he's OK
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Post by: Mollycuddles on June 28, 2007, 11:57:03 AM: I now have a heavy heart :'( sleep soundly little Masie :luv:
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Post by: Cazzie on June 28, 2007, 11:58:27 AM: I really dont know what to say Nina, i am dreadfully upset at the news of wee Maisy :'( My heart goes out to you and your family. I just wish there had been something that could have been done for her. I will never forget Maisy she was such a beautiful baby :luv: I hope you stay online :blink: much love cazzie :luv:
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Post by: *Adele* on June 28, 2007, 12:01:15 PM: Oh Nina I am so sorry to hear about poor little Maisy, she was a beautiful looking girl and you obviously loved her so very much, don't blame yourself for what has happened, you did your very best for her.

Run free angel Masiy.

xxx
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Post by: Sheryl on June 28, 2007, 12:09:59 PM: So very sorry to read about Maisy. My heart breaks for you :'(

God bless little Maisy.
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Post by: silkstocking on June 28, 2007, 12:15:06 PM: What can I say, so terribly sorry that it had to come to this, your heart must be broken :'( xxxx

Run Free Maisy :luv: :luv:
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Post by: Boof on June 28, 2007, 12:23:24 PM: I'm so sorry. You are a very dedicated dog owner and I can only hope you will be able to accept another cocker when the time is right. My thoughts are with you. Run free Maisy. :luv:
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Post by: michelle p on June 28, 2007, 12:28:12 PM: I am so very, very sorry for you and your family, it must have been a heartwrenching decision :'(

God bless little Maisy :'(
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Post by: Joules on June 28, 2007, 12:30:19 PM: What a heartbreaking decision - so sorry to hear about little Maisy :'( :'( Don't feel bad though, you did all you could - some things are just not meant to be. :-\

Run free Maisy :luv: :luv:
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Post by: laz82 on June 28, 2007, 12:43:28 PM: I'm really sorry, hope you are dealing with it ok.
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Post by: MontyMoo on June 28, 2007, 12:49:43 PM: Run free at the bridge Maisy Moo, enjoy each and every bird you chase little princess.

Our thoughts are with you and your family.

All our love

Jen and Monty x
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Post by: Lee67 on June 28, 2007, 01:09:05 PM: Our thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time Nina... :'(

Run free Maisy... :luv:
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Post by: leisl on June 28, 2007, 01:28:45 PM: Maisy, bye bye my love, run free and be happy. :'(
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Post by: helen1 on June 28, 2007, 01:30:00 PM: So sorry to hear of your sad news Nina. (((hugs)))
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Post by: JaspersMum on June 28, 2007, 01:36:06 PM: Soo sorry to read this, you cannot blame yourself, you tried all you could and it just wasn't meant to be. :'(

Hope the wounds (mental and physical) heal quickly, don't leave us, maybe one day you'll be blessed with another dog - cocker or other.

Run free at the Bridge Maisy.
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Post by: JenSam on June 28, 2007, 01:37:23 PM: So sorry to hear about little Maisy Moo. :'(

My thoughts are with you.

Jen xx
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Post by: suzysu on June 28, 2007, 01:44:00 PM: Oh Nina my heart breaks for you :'( I am so very sorry to hear such sad news. Please dont feel bad, you did all you could to help little Maisy and she is at last at peace ...thinking of you and sending lots of luv and hugs xxxxx
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Post by: Joelf on June 28, 2007, 01:46:59 PM: Nina, I am SO sorry to read your news about Maisy. :'(

Run free of your demons at the Bridge Maisyxx
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Post by: Mrs T on June 28, 2007, 01:57:54 PM: The downside to COL is that we share the heartbreak as well as the love and my heart is breaking for you and Maisy.

Run free little girl.
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Alpha on June 28, 2007, 01:59:45 PM: i know how you feel when i lost Badger I was inconsolable for weeks, and to this day i couldn't have another black and white dog i would be frightened of making comparisons. His picture still takes pride of place in my conservatory.
However do not EVEN FOR ONE MINUTE think that any of this is your fault, you found a puppy and fell in love that in my book isn't a crime. I know from the bottom of my heart that no one would of gone to the lengths that you have to try to help her. Try to remember all the love and happiness she had in her short life, which she probabaly wouldn't of got anywhere else and look forward to when you see her again because ALL dogs go to heaven. You had best be a good girl and make sure you go there too.
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Post by: Dotties Mum on June 28, 2007, 02:00:08 PM: I'm truly sorry to hear about Maisy. :'(

You really tried to help her and it is none of your faults, she is now happy and having fun as she should be :luv:

I hope the pain of your sorrows heal quickly, but she will never be forgotten :-* :-*

Sending you lots of hugs and best wishes :-*

Lianne xxx :-* :-*
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Post by: Nicola on June 28, 2007, 02:08:30 PM: What a terrible, tragic thing :'(

Run free little Maisy, you were just a baby :'(
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Post by: Bluebell on June 28, 2007, 02:19:31 PM: Today I am celebrating my little girls first birthday, and I have just read your post. My heart goes out to you at making what must have been a horrendous decision - I cannot imagine life without my Little Lillie, and i have tears in my eyes thinking of what you must be going through.

Run free Little one.
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Post by: suzieq on June 28, 2007, 02:39:11 PM: so very very sorry :'(
run free little girl
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Post by: Tony'n'Jo on June 28, 2007, 03:03:27 PM: this is so sad :'( :'(.
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Post by: lolajays on June 28, 2007, 03:13:54 PM: Beanie, I think that everything has been said. Im so sorry for your sad loss.

Stay strong and run free sweet Maisy
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Post by: spanielcrazy on June 28, 2007, 03:18:58 PM: My thoughts are with you and your family in your heartbreak and grief :'(

Run free, Maisy, run in happiness :luv:
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Post by: Gilly on June 28, 2007, 03:55:52 PM: I'm so sorry to hear your sad news :'(
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Post by: cdpops on June 28, 2007, 04:09:41 PM: I am so sorry to hear your sad news, my thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time.
Maisy I hope you find true contentment at the bridge.
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Post by: JoanneM on June 28, 2007, 04:14:03 PM: Sorry to hear your news. :'(

Thinking of you and you family.
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Post by: Helen on June 28, 2007, 04:24:34 PM: so terribly sad

run free and happy little baby girl :'( :'( :'( :'(
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Post by: Tracy S on June 28, 2007, 04:38:49 PM: I am typing this through very blurred eyes, I simply can't imagine how youy must feel :'( :'(

God bless you all, run free Maisy :luv:
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Post by: White Bryony on June 28, 2007, 04:44:00 PM: I first read this post this morning but couldn't write a reply because of my tears.

What a horrible heartbreaking decision you had to make ... but you were brave for your little Maisy.

My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope that the support and kind thoughts of everyone who has posted already help a little.

Run free little Maisy dog :luv: :luv:
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Post by: LouiseAS on June 28, 2007, 05:06:50 PM: I am so sorry for your loss but having followed Maisy's threads over the past months think you made a brave and very wise decision.

Quote from: Mrs T on June 28, 2007, 01:57:54 PM
The downside to COL is that we share the heartbreak as well as the love and my heart is breaking for you and Maisy.

I agree with that, I'm sitting here bawling like a baby :'(

Sending you lots of love xxx
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Post by: juliaanne on June 28, 2007, 05:09:26 PM: So very sorry to hear about Maisie, thinking of you all and feeling very sad.
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Post by: *Jay* on June 28, 2007, 05:27:01 PM: I'm so sorry to hrear your sad news :'(

Sleep tight Maisy :luv:
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Post by: Cayley on June 28, 2007, 05:31:10 PM: Sorry to hear your news :'(.
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Post by: *sammy* on June 28, 2007, 05:32:12 PM: a heartbreaking decision to make but in time i'm sure you'll know it was for the best. thinking of you at this terribly sad time X X x :'(
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Post by: Brimbeck(Dyllan) on June 28, 2007, 05:37:34 PM: So sorry to hear the news.
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Post by: Harriet on June 28, 2007, 05:38:41 PM: So sorry to hear this news :'(

Run Free Maisy :luv:
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Post by: magicflower on June 28, 2007, 05:41:04 PM: I think most of what I've felt since reading your post has been said.

So very sad for all of you. :'(

Thinking of you. :'(
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Post by: Letichia on June 28, 2007, 06:13:12 PM: So sorry to hear your news :'(
Sleep tight Maisy
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Post by: MollieMoo on June 28, 2007, 06:54:34 PM: Sorry to hear your news, as it must have been such a hard decision to make, but you made the right decision for Maisy. Such a selfless act.

Run free Maisy...
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Post by: Elisa on June 28, 2007, 07:08:52 PM: I'm so sorry Nina :'(

Sweet dreams beautiful girl :luv:

Love and thoughts to you and your family at this heartbreaking time :luv:
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Post by: AnnieM on June 28, 2007, 07:13:27 PM: So sorry to read this. :'(

Run free at the bridge little Maisy. :luv:
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Post by: Jan/Billy on June 28, 2007, 07:15:59 PM: oh I'm so so so sorry for your loss :'( :'(

Run free Maisy xxxxxxxx
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Post by: daydreams on June 28, 2007, 07:38:26 PM: i am so sorry to hear of your loss, i am sure it wasn't an easy decision, but take heart that you gave her those precious times

take care of yourselves

Daydreams
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Post by: Abby on June 28, 2007, 07:38:35 PM: Nina, I'm so sorry this has happened to your little Maisy.

You and your family are in our thoughts.

Have fun at the bridge beautiful Maisy :luv:
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Post by: Saffaroo on June 28, 2007, 07:45:46 PM: So very sorry to hear about Maisy.

Be assured that you did your very best to help her and that she is now at peace.

Our thoughts to you and your family. :'(
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Post by: kellymac on June 28, 2007, 07:51:50 PM: very sorry to hear your sad sad news :'( :'(

...our thoughts are with you.

Kelly & Monty
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Post by: Penelope on June 28, 2007, 08:59:17 PM: So sorry to hear about your terrible news. Run free at the bridge little one.
Please stay on line and keep in touch - we are all here for you and can listen when you need us. You did the right thing and no one will condemn you on here.
Take care of yourself and hope Rob is ok soon.
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Post by: Jan/Billy on June 28, 2007, 09:00:42 PM: Quote from: Penny Harrison on June 28, 2007, 08:59:17 PM
no one will condemn you on here.

absolutely :-*
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Post by: harleys mum on June 28, 2007, 09:17:01 PM: Couldn't see thro my tears wen I read your post this afternoon

I cant pretend to know how you feel - can only imagine how I would be in this situation

love to you all - do keep in touch
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Post by: Annette on June 28, 2007, 09:48:41 PM: I'm so sorry
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Post by: ElaineH on June 28, 2007, 09:50:33 PM: I'm sorry you had to lose your little Maisy, it must have been so hard for you.
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Post by: The Woolys on June 28, 2007, 10:08:55 PM: I started to read your post at work this afternoon but had to stop.So here i am sat here tears streaming out of my eyes, wondering how on earth you must be feeling. You gave Maisy all the love that you could even when it was challenging and you will always love her, she will be in your heart always

Please don't let your experience put you off having another cocker, they really are the most affectionate dog i have met, i know it will take some time before you could even think about it.

Maisy, you were loved and everyone here is feeling so sad that you have left our world. Run free at the bridge and have the best time chasing the birds and cats. You will never be forgotton
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Post by: harveysmum on June 28, 2007, 10:28:07 PM: so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news :'( thinking of you and your family

michelle
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Post by: Danni n Betty on June 28, 2007, 10:40:50 PM: So very sorry for your loss :'(
Cant even imagine the heartache :'(
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Post by: Max X 2 on June 28, 2007, 11:01:49 PM: I'm so sorry. :'( :'(

Thinking of you at this difficult time.
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Post by: oswaldann on June 28, 2007, 11:26:47 PM: So sorry for Maisie.
Run free darling girl :luv:
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Post by: kellyjayne on June 29, 2007, 11:19:57 AM: Oh Nina I'm so sorry to hear about this :'( I'm sitting at my computer crying unable to imagine what you are going through.

Run free Maisy :luv:
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Post by: Maria on June 29, 2007, 11:25:09 AM: So sorry :'(

Goodnight, God Bless Maisy :luv:
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Post by: mentalcat on June 29, 2007, 12:00:06 PM: Oh Nina ,
I'm so sorry, there's not much to say that hasn't already been said.
You saw a puppy, you gave her a home and all the love you could, but sometimes that isn't enough. You made the right decision, the only one in the circumstances.
No one is going to say you didn't try everthing humanly possible to sort her out, but sometimes the cards just dont fall in our favour :'(
Give yourself time to grieve and come to terms with what has happened - treasure the good times you had, i'm sure they were many.
Please feel free to PM me if you want a shoulder to cry on, or someone to shout out!
Take care - hugs to you and yours.

Ali

Maisy - Run free darling girlie, your mum loved you very much and will miss you dreadfully.
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Post by: julesd on June 29, 2007, 12:06:14 PM: I'm so sorry. You made a very brave decision.

Thinking of you.

Bless you, little Maisy.
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Post by: sabrino on June 29, 2007, 12:58:09 PM: Really sorry to read your news, poor Maisy and poor you. You did the right thing. :'(

xxx
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Post by: jarbaha on June 29, 2007, 02:53:55 PM: nina i've just read this whole post from start to finish.
its so sad :'(

my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

run free maisy.

love terri x
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Post by: Deb H on June 29, 2007, 03:28:13 PM: I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss, my heart aches for you and your family. Thinking of you take care. :luv:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Michele on June 29, 2007, 06:11:26 PM: I'm so sorry, but how very brave of you to set Maisy free of her demons.

Enjoy chasing the birdies at the Bridge Maisy.
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Post by: Krisdt on June 29, 2007, 09:28:27 PM: So sorry for you all :'(
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: CraftySam on June 29, 2007, 10:29:16 PM: I am so sorry, your heart must be breaking. :'(

Its an incredibly hard decision to make, you have been very brave.

My heart pours out to you, take care of yourself.

Run free little Maisy. :luv:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: debz on June 29, 2007, 10:45:49 PM: i'm so sorry what a heartbreaking decision :'( :'( i can't even imagine how you must be feeling :'( your thread was so moving i was in floods :'(
My thoughts are with you :luv: Tom and i would like to send you big healing hugs :luv:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: sharesy on June 30, 2007, 09:30:26 PM: So sorry to hear your sad news. :'(
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Cazzie on June 30, 2007, 10:15:10 PM: How old was wee Maisy? :luv:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: lolajays on July 01, 2007, 07:48:40 PM: Quote from: Cazzie on June 30, 2007, 10:15:10 PM
How old was wee Maisy? :luv:
Cazzie I think she was around 6 months old!
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: cocotheblackcocker on July 01, 2007, 08:32:00 PM: Quote from: Beanie on June 28, 2007, 10:01:52 AM
As Many of you know we have had various problems with Maisy and her behaviour over the last few months. It had escalated and got out of control, things which I had not even posted on here such as seriously biting people, flying into rages over nothing and in the end badly biting Rob's face on Sunday for no reason (in fact she even displayed it to the vet on Tuesday who was very shocked). I cannot explain it all now, in fact I don't want to cause I don't want to remember her like that. We consulted our vet and a behaviourist, they advised that in their opinion Maisy had "Rage Syndrome" and would never ever be trained out of it and things would get worse. She was not re-homeable because of the extent of the problem and the best thing we could do for her would be to put her to sleep.

So yesterday at 09.40 after spending one last happy evening with Maisy we had her put to sleep, it was the hardest thing which I have ever had to do in my life and it feels as though my heart is broken. We stayed with her until the end. To see her yesterday morning chasing the birds around the field filled my heart with sadness, she looked at me as they were injecting her as if to plead with me not to do it. I wish so much I could have saved her, I wish it could have been different.

The thing is I know we are partly to blame, we brought a non KC registered dog, we did not see her mother or all the other things we should have done. I thought I was saving her from that place but in the end nothing could save her. I wish I had found this site earlier and researched better but I didn't and although I regret it, I do not regret one minute spent with my Maisy.

I know many of you will have opinions on what I have just said, the non KC, the Rage syndrome which some people do not think exists. Please do not debate it here and now, until you have seen it with your own eyes or been in my shoes it is hard to believe. but believe this, I would not have given up on her no matter how much training, time or money it would have taken, if it could have been done I would have done it. Some of you may say I deserve it for being so stupid in the first place, but I saw her and fell in love with her and maybe it was just meant to be that we would give her a happy four months of love, fun and care.

And so to my darling Maisy Moo. I am so so sorry. I miss every bone of you, we all do. our home is not the same without you and we will never ever forget you. I hope wherever you are now there are birdies to chase, dogs to play with and people to love. chicken for every meal and lots and lots of carpet to chew. you will never be forgotton by any of us and every tear I have cried has been worth it to have your love for the time we did, I wish you were still here with all my heart.

Thank you all for your help and advise over the last months. Good luck for the future and I hope you all have lots of happy time with your cockers.

Nina
im so sorry to hear what you've been through its brought many tears to my eyes. :'(
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Beanie on July 02, 2007, 10:25:14 AM: Thank you everyone for your wonderful words.

Things have begun to get easier although I still find myself thinking she will be waiting at the door when I get in and waking in time to go for a walk and chase the birdies. I know it will get better but at the moment there is a massive hole. I had some wonderful cuddles at the weekend with some lovely cockers (you know who you are ;)) and we are going to get another.

Maisy for just six months old but had shown many signs of rage from around 4 months, when it went from puppy behaviour to quite vicious at times. I am looking into the breeder (if you can call her that ph34r) at the moment and I won't rest until I at least get some answers.

Nina
x
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: *Theresa* on July 02, 2007, 10:35:45 AM: Nina I can not add anything to what has already been said. My heart breaks for you. Run free Maisy. :'( :'(
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: scooby's mum on July 02, 2007, 11:40:55 AM: Nina

Just read your thread and my heart absolutely breaks for you :'( :'( :'( Maisy was a lucky girl to have such a loving family in her short life :D

Take care xxxx
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: cazza on July 02, 2007, 09:47:48 PM: Quote from: Beanie on July 02, 2007, 10:25:14 AM
Maisy for just six months old but had shown many signs of rage from around 4 months, when it went from puppy behaviour to quite vicious at times. I am looking into the breeder (if you can call her that ph34r) at the moment and I won't rest until I at least get some answers.

Well done you for looking into Maisey's so called breeder ;)

I'm sure things are still hard at home - love to you all :luv: :-* ;)
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 09:50:46 PM: Is anyone up on Rage syndrome? As the info would be good :blink:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: CarolineL on July 02, 2007, 09:59:13 PM: Quote from: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 09:50:46 PM
Is anyone up on Rage syndromCae? As the info would be good :blink:

Hi Cazzie

Linda Ward is extremely knowledgeable on the subject - you can contact her via the following website.

http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/ (http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/)

I would also imagine that if you did a search on Linda Ward or Rage Syndrome in the search facility you'd find a fair bit :D :D :D
HTH
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 10:04:14 PM: Quote from: CarolineL on July 02, 2007, 09:59:13 PM
Quote from: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 09:50:46 PM
Is anyone up on Rage syndromCae? As the info would be good :blink:

Hi Cazzie

Linda Ward is extremely knowledgeable on the subject - you can contact her via the following website.

http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/ (http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/)

I would also imagine that if you did a search on Linda Ward or Rage Syndrome in the search facility you'd find a fair bit :D :D :D
HTH

Ive read that thanks ;) Im wanting to know how early in a dogs life its diagnosed, as I feel Maisy was so young. As I have never heard of a dog with it before and being so upset at Maisy's story i would love to learn more as I think so many of us could learn from this :blink:
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: PennyB on July 02, 2007, 10:36:52 PM: Quote from: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 10:04:14 PM
Quote from: CarolineL on July 02, 2007, 09:59:13 PM
Quote from: Cazzie on July 02, 2007, 09:50:46 PM
Is anyone up on Rage syndromCae? As the info would be good :blink:

Hi Cazzie

Linda Ward is extremely knowledgeable on the subject - you can contact her via the following website.

http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/ (http://www.cockerspanielrage.org.uk/)

I would also imagine that if you did a search on Linda Ward or Rage Syndrome in the search facility you'd find a fair bit :D :D :D
HTH

Ive read that thanks ;) Im wanting to know how early in a dogs life its diagnosed, as I feel Maisy was so young. As I have never heard of a dog with it before and being so upset at Maisy's story i would love to learn more as I think so many of us could learn from this :blink:

Many vets and behaviourists band the word rage around when a cocker comes in with a behavioural issue I'm afraid. I hear it often with cockers who suffer from bad cases of guarding/possessiveness --- which is a bad behavioural problem but not rage
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Nicola on July 02, 2007, 10:40:44 PM: Quote from: PennyB on July 02, 2007, 10:36:52 PM

I wonder if she could actually had a bad behavioural problem rather than rage --- many vets and behaviourists band the word rage around when a cocker comes in with a behavioural issue I'm afraid

I agree Penny, I think 'rage' is seen as an easy diagnosis for dogs which have behaviour issues, particularly cockers :-\
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Jan/Billy on July 02, 2007, 10:48:48 PM: Personally I think now isn't the time or the place for this discussion :'(
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: CarolineL on July 02, 2007, 10:49:57 PM: Quote from: Jan/Billy on July 02, 2007, 10:48:48 PM
Personally I think now isn't the time or the place for this discussion :'(

Have to say I agree with Jan on this one :-\
Title: Re: We have had to say goodbye to Maisy
Post by: Jane S on July 02, 2007, 10:51:44 PM: Quote from: Jan/Billy on July 02, 2007, 10:48:48 PM
Personally I think now isn't the time or the place for this discussion :'(

I agree Jan. It's probably best if this thread is closed as most members have now had a chance to pass on their condolences to Beanie.