I am getting somewhat exasperated with the way my husband manages Darcey's behaviour. She is a poppet for me all day, but loves her daddy and goes absolutely wild with excitement when he comes home in the evening. I know when his car has come down the drive because I can hear her woo wooing and scratching at the back door in anticipation
He takes her out for a walk every evening, though not at the same time each night (and she gets a good walk with me in the day too). Most of the evening is then spent with her barking and barking, leaping off the furniture, throwing her toys around and generally being a monkey. She mouths him a lot too and sometimes he complains that she has bitten him when he's playing with her. Because he plays rough, despite me repeatedly telling him not to. He seems completely incapable of reading her "I'm getting very wound up" signs and just winds her up more and more, then gets cross with her when she oversteps the mark.
I do see this excitement during the day too, especially if someone comes to the house, but have learned to manage her. Especially with a 6 week old baby in the house it is very important that I can keep her calm and settled.
I keep telling him to ignore her when she's barking, but he doesn't, he talks to her constantly. He only ever seems to use one command with her, which is her name said in a variety of frustrated tones of voice. I have pointed out that he is wearing her name out and teaching her to ignore him, that he risks ruining her recall and needs to use different commands. For example, I use leave it/ ah ah (if she's doing something she shouldn't)/ hush now (for barking)/ be gentle (if she's sniffing Libby)/ biscuit (to get her in from the garden). I also ignore her if I don't have time to play with her. She's far from perfect but it works okay for us.
I feel like I am nagging and telling him the same things over and over, but it's driving me mad. Her behaviour in the evenings is getting worse and worse and he is just not helping by being so inconsistent.
What can I do?? He won't listen to me and I feel like a nagging wife. He is knackered as we all are due to small baby and he is getting really cross with Darcey, saying that she is hard work, impossible and ruins his evenings. Well I spend all day with her and she is just delightful! But she can get a bit wearing.
Would appreciate any tips on a) getting husbands to listen and b) anything obvious I am missing with Darcey, easy things to do or tell him to stop her being quite so exciteable in the evenings.