Nice to see you back Lesley, so glad your daughter is ok and I agree with you about the pug , cute as they are they are just NOT cockers are they lol.
Ive only ever had Riley, blue roan . Got him at 9 weeks , he was toilet trained really quick, did the crate thing and did get up in the night for the first month or so. Think that made it easier to be honest.
He only ever had one poop in the house , that was the first week home when I missed it by seconds lol.
He stopped sleeping in his crate at 6 months and has slept upstairs with us ever since, no problems, sleeps from 9.30-nearly 7am most days.
I think you have been so unlucky, I know you are looking at changing things, i.e. not on the settee and not in your bed, fed by your daughter etc, so I know you are trying so hard like you did with Archie to get things right.
I think no matter what you did / do then things sometimes are just going to be that way. You did brilliant .
I vote this time a particolour, don't be put off boys, as I say Riley loves both of us the same, isn't possesive .
Recall we started from day 1, literally did do that the first day he was home haha.
He was fab until hormones kicked in at about 2 years old, then really affected by bitch scents, we live in a huge populated area with lots of dogs (your home town)
We got him neutered at 3 years and the difference is unbelievable, he is so not interested now, he goes a little bit away has a sniff but keeps his eye on us and comes right back, he is so focused on us and his ball , never been on a scent trail since the day we had him neutered. Thats made life\walks so much more fun and less stressed.
Will look forward to following your updates.