Hi and welcome to COL.
I'm not a working Mum and fortunately our Wherry goes to work with her Dad everyday anyway but I just wanted to respond.
First of all I agree that there are plenty of people who in reality leave their dog/s at home alone all day and COLers are perhaps not, by the very fact they are on a dog forum, the
average dog owners, perhaps people whos dogs play a HUGE part of their lives, more so than the average. I'm not saying we are better or more caring or anything of the sort but that most of us are VERY passionate about our pups and things like doggy days care are normal. In reality, outside of COL I don't think I know anyone who uses walkers or day care. But you've asked, and I doubt, given your situation anyone on here will support the idea of a second dog for you. We're not being mean or ganging up and I think that maybe you've already decided that a second dog is for you so I'd urge you to take the advise on getting someone in to provide extra care and stimulation while you are at work.
Also, if you go ahead, you need to take a good few weeks off work to be with pup as someone said, you have to house train it, get it used to it's environment, supervise two dogs together (I don't think I'd want to be leaving two dogs together until I knew they got along 100% which would take a long time. ) etc etc
I'm sure many people have ended up having to work more hours than they would wish to leave their dog for and must be able to offer some advice / support. It just seems such a shame to me that those of us with the energy are deemed 'unsuitable' dog owners, yet when we retire (but before we get too old) we could be allowed a dog. Does no-one else think this?
I can see your point here but the term 'ended up' sticks out. Circumstances change, people have to work more and I can't tell you the number of adult dogs I've seen for sale due to 'a change in work circumstances' but I think the point is that most wouldn't take on a second dog knowing the circumstances are
already in place. Those that have 'ended up' working more have often found the way around it is to get in help.
In an ideal world all our dogs would be with us, have our full attention (I'm trying to find an aid dog bib for Wherry so she can come shopping
) and that doesn't always happen but God help these people that get three dogs, go out to work all day and wonder why their house is destroyed. It doesn't mater how much energy the owner has if they don't have the time or inclination to direct it towards their dogs. (and I don't mean you but generally)
If you do decide to go ahead anyway please still let us know and please don't consider the car idea, get help in or you will most likely regret it (wee and poo in the house, fighting dogs and vets bills, wrecked house, nervous crying puppy, unhappy Abby etc, possibly one or all of the above) there are always neighbours, family etc if you can't stretch to day care 5 days a week.