Please don't feel anyone is judging you! thats not we're about here on COL, we all do things different ways but the whole point of a forum is to discuss, throw ideas into the ring and try and help each other out. Its inevitable that when we're trying to defend our own methods, we're pointing out the disadvantages, from our points of view,of the other methods because that's how we arrived at the decision about which course to take but that doesn't mean we necessarily disapprove! I've learned an awful lot on here, although I have had dogs all my life, Humphrey is my fist spaniel. Every action causes a reaction and its good to try and see beyond just solving the current problem. lots of people here have a wealth of experience which is priceless in training this lovely but very special breed. Good luck!