So pleased to hear Baldrick is back
& Amber is happy again
I totally understand your feelings about Amber being spayed, as i feel the same about mine.
However one of my girls, Nina who is 4 yrs. old is booked in for a keyhole spay on the 30th Nov
& i honestly thought i would never consider getting any of my girls spayed because of similar reasons to yours.
Because the keyhole spay is less intrusive & faster recovery time, perhaps that is also something to consider for Amber.
Eventually i will get my others spayed this way too.