While Ollie is poles apart and loves to go away, I am always very concerned in case he takes a dislike to someone, we have taken him away since he was young, we stayed in Cheltenham a few weeks back and the morning we were leaving the maid came bounding out of the next room he went bonkers, having walked in and out and up a down countless times and past folk. I panicked OH picked Ollie up and said something witty, Ollie calmed and she laughed.
I know he reacts to me....always has done since he was little - he can read me like a book. I wonder if Rowan picks up on your anxiety etc. I honestly have no idea I am doing anything
but OH says its me. These cockers are so intelligent I wonder if she is picking up on something and making things worse. If we go abroad like Rowan, Ollie has an adoring Nana - but she too says it is a good 24 to 36 hours of crying and not eating till he comes round, largely due to the fact that he knows he will be sleep on the bed with her
I wonder if you try self catering but with a hotel attached so hubby has the hotel amenities but Rowan has a private place, then maybe Rowan stress and your stress is less. I think that somehow it is anticipated that all three of you will get worked up and she is picking up on this.
Can I ask do you stay over night with family and how is Rowan then, if not maybe you could try staying at your parents a couple of times before you go away.
Do hope you manage to sort things out