I haven't even got my puppy yet and I've already told my family and in laws what will and won't be acceptable.
And sneaky feeding behind my back would definately not be. I completely agree with you that Ellie's is your responsibilty so you have the right to decide what chemicals go into her body!
I'd be fuming! She sounds like an absolute nightmare!
anyway the final outcome is she is no longer speaking to me
ellie won't be visiting again. she is no longer welcome
Bonus!
Hope you make up with your hubby soon though. xxx