Well. that was a mixed bag of comments.
First up to Rachel and Nicola...
your opinions are your opinions, but let me straighten you out on a few of your points...,
I was and am well aware of what breed Ella is and how much work is involved with her. I GOT HER FOR THOSE REASONS. I did not want a dog that grew too large for our home, I did not want one I could slip into a bag under my arm. I did not trot out of my house one day thinking, 'today I think I will get a dog.., now which one shall I choose?'
I NEVER LOOKED AT ELLA, THE BREED, THROUGH ROSE TINTED GLASSES. I did not get her to show her, I did not get her with a high level of expectancy to have her perform in a pleasing manner, enter her into competitions or to just have her sit and look pretty in the house.
Before having her I studied breeds of dogs, I settled on a spaniel. I studied the difference in the show dog v the working strain. I TOOK ADVICE FROM DOG OWNERS, SPANIEL OWNERS, I LISTENED AND I EDUCATED MYSELF I LOOKED AT MY FAMILY LIFE, MY HOME, MY KIDS, MY TIME. I am not an idiot that believed any old spaniel would do and now find myself scratching my head in annoyance or frustration as she will not 'toe the line'. I resent those implications as neither one of you women know me or know my home life and how we function here. You have taken up on a few posts where I have been frustrated and upset after long hard days, which is only natural given how much I do love Ella and you have come to the conclusion that I want to throw money at her and have somebody else do the hard work of training her, while I what..? Bring her home and lock her in the kitchen thinking I need not make an effort with her as a trainer has done that for me, I paid for it so that is where my responsibility ends?
I was NOT ASHAMED to be seen dirty and wet.., I was ATTEMPTING HUMOR AT THAT POINT OF THE POST. We looked a right sight outside that coffee place, IT WAS FUNNY. Not ashamed in the hang my head, hide in a corner I want to die way, ashamed in the Oh, great.., two hot cops and a man on what can only be described as the best bike in the world.., where the heck are my high heals and makeup bag when I need them?
I am very sorry if you do not find that funny.., but I did and mentioned it in the humor sense not any other sense. Obviously your sense of humor is not the same as mine. But that is fine.
Sorry to have bored you Rachel with asking for the same advice and being given it repeatedly.., but know this.., I do not expect a quick fix with Ella, I do and have listened to advice given to me on here and a lot of it has paid off.., are we not meant to have a moan when a day goes badly incase people think we are not listening and paying attention and are only after 'a quick fix?' I am well aware this is a long term investment with Ella and that changes do not happen overnight. I am not stupid. IAnd I actually invest far, far more than the 'minimal' time and energy with Ella. A damn sight more than a lot of dog owners I see about, so that I deeply, deeply resent.
I was not ashamed that Ella took off, I was frightened, my daughter was in tears, we left mainly for that reason, her asthma was playing up as a result.
You have both got myself and my dog completely wrong.
Ella is not confused or stressed.., she knows boundaries around the home, she is a happy dog apart from the not being able to run off lead right no and that will come. I AM LOOKING FOR A PLACE SHE CAN BE OFF LEAD BUT IT IS NOT AN EASY TASK. I AM FULLY AWARE THAT SHE NEEDS THIS AND AM ONTO IT.
Thats all I have to say to you.
You were not inthe position I was yesterday, I am sure you have been before, but you are not me and have not walked my shoes this year so therefore have no grounds for such condescending remarks.
I wanted a dog that could run with me, hike with me,