I do not think anyone here is judging. Some of us currently have, or have had issues with both dogs and health, mental and physical. Like someone said, a cocker puppy is a challenge even under normal circumstances, and you are struggling so much extra. It's not surprising that you are overwhelmed.
I do think there is a lot of good advice so far. Like:
- You taking Watson out as much as you are able to, if it is only one short walk, then you were still the wonderful person who provided it for him.
- Set up a schedule so he gets a predictable daily routine. With mealtimes provided by you at approximately the same time every day.
- Guide him by the leash outside if he starts disturbing work calls could help. No fuss, just bring him away from the situation, break the pattern of unwanted behaviour. Act confident and unemotional. Show him that you know what to do, and he can trust you
Remember, he doesn't need too much adventure and exercise right now, he jus needs safety and predictability.
He can get lots of love and attention, but he also needs to be ignored in between the cuddles and playtimes. If he is fed, walked, had his playtime/cuddles, ignore him for a few hours with a clear conscience.
Maybe you can agree on a common tactic to try one week and not argue about it until you review it next week. If your husband is frustrated all the time, and you are anxious about that, then the puppy will pick up on that. I know it's easy to say from the outside. But owners of difficult dogs often put too much pressure on themselves. We are not perfect, and problematic dog behaviour does not get fixed overnight even if we do everything correctly.
If you find a way to rehome him into a suitable home then I will not judge. Unil then, or if you decide to keep him, be kind to yourself and just do your best. He needs to see
you provide resources, he needs
you to show him what you expect from of him and he needs safety. If you can't do it some days due to your health, then don't feel bad. Just do what you can, when you can, all we can do is our best.
I promise we do not judge, but many on the forum have valuable experiences and solid knowledge to share. In an effort to get the important points across, advise can maybe appear a little direct in written format.