I feel for you, I really do. Odie suffered terrible SA from bringing him home at 8 weeks old, up to 19 weeks. I'm a stay at home mum and was always around with him, which I suppose, isn't all it's cracked up to be. Odie's party trick would be to whine and poo in his puppy pen whenever I left him alone (5 mins to do housework elsewhere, or 30 mins for school run). I would always have him outside to toilet 30 mins before I needed to leave him but he just refused to go, but would do it the second he was left alone
I was like you, I HATED those first few months and I really didn't bond with him at all. All I was doing was cleaning him, the floor and the puppy bars twice a day and it can really get you down.
I was at my wits end and on the verge of sending him back to his breeder (I was so depressed about it
) when I was told to try leaving him for short periods of time (initially sitting in the same room, then moving a short distance away etc). I done this over a 2 week period (3 times a day) and suddenly something just clicked in his brain and he stopped soiling his puppy pen! He still will whine a bit if I've put him in his crate and I'm still in the house but I am perservering with it and it is lessening. He certainly isn't upset, more like 'let me out mum!'. So this method of dealing with SA definately worked for me and I now have clean dog who can be left up to 4 hours.
Apols for long reply (and if I've already replied to any previous threads you've posted on this
). Just wanted to give you some hope that this method worked in my case. Oh, I also used the DAP spray in conjunction with the training so not sure if helped things along too. Lesley