Well I have a confession to make! Everybody has been really helpful and we picked up Gwen Baileys book, The Perfect Puppy and putting 2 + 2 together with all your comments we realised that because Michael is disabled we would be making a mistake in getting a Cocker. The breed is lovely and we loved the character but realised from things people shared that long term they would not be the right dog for us, we don't have lots of energy! So we decided on a Cavalier, which we picked up last Thursday with his own crate (!) and he is adorable and we have had no bad nights! We've made the right decision for us and our circumstances but wanted to say thanks to everyone who unknowingly stopped us from making a big mistake, for the dogs sake and ours.