Have been told that if you just don't respond, they'll never know as the letters aren't sent recorded delivery etc, but is it worth risking it! The dates clash with start of summer hols, and there's no point getting a deferral ( up to a year ) as there will always be something it clashes with, so going to hope that I can get excused due to child care issues (my son is 11yrs old, but they don't need to know that).
Just trying to justify my child care issues . I may have found someone who does dog sitting in her own home, sounds lovely, so going to meet her and her dog next week. It wouldn't work if I did Jury service (she does live near(ish), same town as the court,) I couldn't get my son to school, and get Darwin to dog sitter, and get into center of town, park and to the court by 9am.
Where we live all the kids from our village go to completely different secondary schools, so in his school (260 kids per year) there isn't another child in his year who lives in the same village. I'm not going to make my son get a public bus to school at 7am ( 20min journey at that time), when school doesn't start until 8.45am
Will let you know what happens.