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Cocker Specific Discussion => General Cocker Spaniel Discussion => Topic started by: Poppsie on February 28, 2013, 01:17:51 PM
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When we lost Poppy nearly 4 years ago we scattered her ashes in the garden where she loved to play :luv: because we knew she wouldn't have wanted to stay in a box :'( :'(. Well 2 years later we then lost my Pebbles :'( :'( and I couldn't bring myself to part with her when we got her ashes back :'(. Deep down I knew that she would have wanted to be with Poppy in the garden but I just couldn't bring myself to do it :'(, well today being the beautiful day that it is I scattered her ashes with Poppy :'( :'(. I can quite honestly say I know I have done the right thing, but it just feels like my heart has been ripped out all over again and I just can't stop crying :'( :'(.
Please treausre your furbaby's while you have them cause honestly this has broken me :luv: :luv: x x x
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I'm so sorry for your losses you must be understandably heart broken. Just try, if you can to imagine your fury ones out there today enjoying the sunshine together.
Lots of love to you xx
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Di
So sorry to hear that.
I have three cockers buried in my garden, Cassie, Daisy and Fudge. When Danny died he was too big to bury so we had him cremated and when his ashes came back I buried them straight away, with some of his hair we had left out for the birds when he was last trimmed. I wanted to bury him in a prominent position and it just happened a rose had died, so dug his grave and put the fur and the ashes in it and then planted a lovely scented rose "SWEET DREAMS" over him. When I stood up I realised the "LADY" statue we have was looking right down on him. I don't know if it was fate, but it made me feel a lot better and we now have somewhere I can go and talk to him, just as I do with Cassie, Daisy and Fudge.
Take the positives that you loved them, they loved you and you did all you could for them :'( :'(
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Love doesn't cease.
Bless your big heart Di...
sending you a :bigarmhug:
from us!
steffnelliexxx
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A big hug from me. They leave such a big cocker shaped hole in our hearts that never quite heals. xx
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Aww Dianne :bigarmhug: We lost our lovely Ben just over 2 years ago. We have a very small garden and don't intend to live here forever, so decided to scatter his ashes somewhere he loved going for walks when we were away in the caravan. It is a lovely place and we have many happy memories and photos of him there. We don't go there anymore though because just minutes after we had scattered his ashes, Ruby (then 14 weeks old) did a poo behind our caravan, on our pitch (which I picked up immediately) but I had all kinds of verbal abuse from the guy on the next pitch >:( At the time I was already very emotional, so ended up shaking and in tears >:D It has put us off returning, but we always think of him when we drive past :luv:
Just try and take comfort from the fact that your furbaby's are together and near you... :luv:
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Millie died 3yrs this April, I still have her ashes. At the beginning like you I could not let her go, we had decided to scatter her ashes on Southport beach as this was one of her favourite places. But we have just moved to Wales and have decided to scatter her on the beach which we can see from our house. So when we look out she will be there. Think we will do it at Easter.
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You've done a brave thing on a beautiful sunny day and now your girls are together.
Now remember them with a smile and think of all the happy times with them :) x
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:bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: I also agree you have done a very brave thing today letting go of Pebbles to be with Poppy. Just rest in the fact that you had the pleasure of the love from two lovely cockers :luv: and concentrate on the happy times you all had together :luv:
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My heart goes out to you. No matter where they are, or where you are, they will always be in you heart. i have Rosies ashes in a box in the lounge,and very happy to have them there. I talk to her as I dust her...
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Oh bless you, gone but never forgotten :luv:
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:bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: I also agree you have done a very brave thing today letting go of Pebbles to be with Poppy. Just rest in the fact that you had the pleasure of the love from two lovely cockers :luv: and concentrate on the happy times you all had together :luv:
Thankyou you lovely peeps :luv: :luv: Helen I whole heartly agree with what you are saying and I must admit that I was very lucky to have had my girls as long as I did :luv: Poppy is probably saying what took you so long mum :luv: :luv: bless em x x x
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Awwww Di :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug:
I know how upset you are but I think what you have done today is beautiful. :luv: You have a lovely garden and now your two gorgeous girls are together and can "play" in the sunshine.
I still have the ashes of Charlie and Jarvis at home, in the lounge where they loved to be. Andy and me still haven't come to a decision as to what we will eventually do with them. I'd love to put them in a pot full of roses, then we can take them with us if we move. Andy wants the ashes scattered with our own when we eventually go.
I have a picture of my Dad with Charlie and I have a lock of Charlie's fur in the picture. I also cut a little bit of Jarvis's fur off minutes before he was PTS and have kept it with his ashes.
At the end of the day though, our babies are in our hearts forever. :luv:
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At the end of the day though, our babies are in our hearts forever.
That's where mine are.....and will be forever. There is a little part of both of my girls etched in my heart and memory forever. Wherever I go, wherever I live... they will go too.
Glad you were able to do what you did today Dianne. Your babes are together now, like they always were.
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I wish they could live forever......... :luv:
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:'( :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: :bigarmhug: for you Di :-*
The day we moved to our current home i put Sam's ashes on the front seat of my car to travel with me to our new home. :'(
We sadly lost him just 2 mths before we moved here & i couldn't bear to scatter his ashes & leave him 'alone' in our old house :embarassed: :'( He is now in our garden along with our Goldie....together forever :angel: :angel: :luv: :luv:
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My two darling girls (Sophie & Molly) are buried in our field next to our house, with a 'blue' fir tree over them. I take Bo for walks up to say 'hello' to them...and to let Bo know that two very special girls are watching him! I chose Bo as he is related to Sophie and Molly,so I don't feel as though I have totally lost them.
:luv: When we can no longer hold them in our arms...we hold them in our hearts :luv:
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Big :bigarmhug: to you all.
It is lovely to have our memories of our very special family members
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Thinking of you Dianne.
You were a great comfort to me when I lost Jezzie, I will never forget your kind words. Your special girls are together again now.
I still have Jezzie's ashes in the box, we had her put in with her Mum, Misty, so my girls are together too. I didn't necessarily want them leaving in a box but I want them with me & I would be heart broken if I moved on and had to leave their ashes behind somewhere. I still talk to them both regularly.
Stay strong
Xx
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I reealy know how you feel I lost my golden Jenny so suddenly and was going to put her in our wood where we spent some happy times but OH who loved her so said to keep her with us it is so steep and I would not get up there easy at times ,so have ny little girl on the mantlepiece with fresh flowers next to her as she loved to lay in the garden I miss here so much but her niece Penny has helped to make us smile again and they are always in our heart with us Hugs to youxx
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My last two dogs, Meg the bull terrier/ Jack Russell and Deli my old sheepdog, are buried on land nearby, that used to belong to my daughter in law's mum. Though dear Meriel has now died and her house sold, there is a footpath through the land and we can still walk there. However, I feel closest to them when we are out walking where I used to take them ~ Deli in particular always feels very close, she was with me 11 years and I think she is still about, keeping an eye on her friend Will who is nearly 13 himself now :luv: When he goes (not for a long time, of course) we will scatter his ashes by Deli's grave.
We miss them forever, but they are still in our hearts :luv:
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Thinking of you Dianne.
You were a great comfort to me when I lost Jezzie, I will never forget your kind words. Your special girls are together again now.
I still have Jezzie's ashes in the box, we had her put in with her Mum, Misty, so my girls are together too. I didn't necessarily want them leaving in a box but I want them with me & I would be heart broken if I moved on and had to leave their ashes behind somewhere. I still talk to them both regularly.
Stay strong
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Thanks Haley now it's you who is giving me comfort :luv: and thanks to everybody else your kind wishes mean so much x x x
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:bigarmhug: oh you just made me cry x (giving florence an extra big hug- thank you for reminding me hoe precious they are)
look after yourself x
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We are very, very lucky aren't we Dianne? You have to have KNOWN the love of these beautiful dogs in order to feel their loss so much.
I hate losing them......and will never come to terms with it. BUT I loved having their love for all the years they were with me.
We wouldn't change that, would we?
Big hugs. :luv: :luv:
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When we lost our GR Cassie last July, a horrendous accident after which we had to make the awful decision to put an end to her suffering. We were in shock, and at an unfamiliar vets (who were very kind, and did their best for her). When we telephoned them the next day to pay the bill, cremation was mentioned as included in the cost, but we were never asked whether we wanted her ashes. We didn't know you could have them to bury or scatter where you wish. I'm so sad now as we would have liked to have them to scatter in one of her favourite places.
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I have kept the ashes of my two dogs and I have never been able to bring myself to scatter or bury them. I've had Cindy's ashes 22yrs and Bonnie's ashes 11 yrs now. What I really want to do is have their ashes scattered with me when I go that way we will always be together.
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A very brave thing to do and I know just how you feel. As others have said we have our precious memories but it's not the same as having them around :'( Just wish they could live as long as we do.
Time just flies, I so remember you were one of the first people to welcome me to the forum when we got our Pebbles nearly 2 years' ago would you believe. She is so special and I dread that day coming.
Take care.
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It's heartbreaking, I'm sorry :'( At least you know they were loved and had happy lives. You will meet again someday.
Can't bear to think what it will be like to me :'(
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That dog-shaped space is always there isn't it, even after other lovely furbabies come into your life. Thirteen years ago my then OH had just walked out on me, I was getting bullied at work, my kids were going off to uni and I had to leave our rented home cos I couldn't afford it. I've never been so low in my life and then my beloved collie had to be pts, all this in the space of a few weeks. I had no garden to bury him in, the vet just drove away with his body in the back of her car. One minute he was in my arms, the next, he was gone. I buried his little teddy in my friend's garden, but it was not the same. I didn't know you could have the ashes. I still sometimes forget and look round on walks to see if he is plodding along behind. I have my two fab girlies now and it is good to remember how special and precious all our doggie family members are.
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That dog-shaped space is always there isn't it, even after other lovely furbabies come into your life. Thirteen years ago my then OH had just walked out on me, I was getting bullied at work, my kids were going off to uni and I had to leave our rented home cos I couldn't afford it. I've never been so low in my life and then my beloved collie had to be pts, all this in the space of a few weeks. I had no garden to bury him in, the vet just drove away with his body in the back of her car. One minute he was in my arms, the next, he was gone. I buried his little teddy in my friend's garden, but it was not the same. I didn't know you could have the ashes. I still sometimes forget and look round on walks to see if he is plodding along behind. I have my two fab girlies now and it is good to remember how special and precious all our doggie family members are.
I'm in tears :'( It's so touching. I'm sorry for your beloved collie.