Well done, Millie for coping so well - I hope you feel better soon

We were given the same lecture by a vet when Molo had a lumpectomy; they wrote "snappy and controlling" on his notes and told me it was dangerous to have him in the house with lil'bit

The fact that he had been pinned down by strangers without a sedative for a biopsy a week earlier was irrelevant. The vets opinion was reinforced when a few months later, Molo had to have a dry-eye test and needed sedating, apparently the vet "....had never had to sedate a dog for this procedure before...."

I asked for, and got, a consultation with the practice behaviourist - who took him off me for 20 minutes to visit "behind the scenes" and she popped him up on an exam table, had some of the nurses examine him etc - and when she brought him back she said he was one of the least anxious dogs she had seen

My experience is that younger vets seems less tolerant of "dog behaviour" than the older, more experienced ones - perhaps it is because they have grown up in a culture which includes popular light entertainment shows that make dog training look simple
Try not to worry...and take no notice of the vet - although you could recommend a copy of The Culture Clash
