its just the impression i got from the posts...
just feel i've had more negative feedback rather than help...
and feel like a bad dog owner for having to put her in a crate
Well I certainly didn't mean my posts to come across like that. I am just aware that crates are sometimes used by people for the wrong reasons which can have a negative impact on the puppy/dog, not saying that this is the case here but I wanted to point out the use of crates i.e. my example of putting a puppy in whilst asleep etc. Abuse of crates can have a serious impact on a dog.
If you're using a crate for time out etc then that shouldn't happen either. Whereabouts is your crate in the home, mine for example is in the kitchen but we also have a dog gate on the kitchen door so Indie would sometimes be in the kitchen during her manic moments as a puppy terrorising my little boy
but not put in her crate. Do you have a space she can be in but not locked in a crate?
If you OH was painting the fence, couldn't she be outside. You can buy stake out pegs from pet stores which she could have been attached to so that she could see what was going on and be outside with him but not get upto any mischief.