It doesnt seem to make any difference, so I figure I may as well sleep in my own bed and away from the crying if she is just going to cry anyway!
It won't work instantly - especially if she has got herself worked up before you go to her; a bit like a lost toddler who can't stop sobbing straight away even when he does find his Mum
I appreciate it is hard, and I know whilst sleep deprivation can do to you - I would think long and hard before hving another puppy beause I didn't enjoy it much
; but I'm not convinced that leaving her to cry for hours alone really is the kindest solution, although I am sure it works for some
I would suggest you sit down with your family, and agree a bedtime routine that suits you, and plans for you or your OH to sleep on the sofa, with her next to you in the crate. Settle her down, with a treat, cuddly toy, perhaps a hot water bottle and some snuggly blankets, - you could even put a blanket partly over the crate to make a den one end if it helps. Turn off the lights and talk to her quietly if she begins to whimper or cry. If she settles but wakes in the night and cries - take her out for to toilet (no playing or cuddles, keep it dark and low-key) and settle her again with a treat. It might not work the first night, or the second, but it will begin to work, and once she has learnt to settle with you next to her crate, you can start to move it further away from the sofa and into the kitchen. It will only be a matter of weeks before she learns to settle without you and you will begin to get your beauty sleep again
Can you remember the disturbed nights when you son was a baby? At the time they probably seemed to last forever, but they really were only for a short time; having a pup is no different really; they are such tiny babies and everything is so new, scary and overwhelming for them
