I'm really sorry to read that Betty's behaviour is the same - as you know the old adage "let sleeping dogs lie" is said for a reason and whilst we all know it was an accident, to Betty, having your daughter suddenly land in her space and wake her - well enough said....
You obviously care very much about Betty and want to do the right thing by her, it's obvious from your post, which is why I'm a bit confused
why let her sleep in an environment that isn't safe for your children when she has a crate? If it was me, I'd be popping her in the crate for set times/durations throughout the day...I do still with Coral who is now 12 months old!
I'd also be careful about letting Betty choose where and when she sleeps......it sounds as though she has you well trained
Pearl did this with me and I'm still facing the ongoing battle of wills almost 5 years on..........
Great idea to get a behaviourist in - please only let them use postive methods.....if Betty is an anxious dog using any form of rough handling or aversion may exacerbate her anxieties.
You may just be very unlucky and have a cocker spaniel who doesn't like being handled or petted.
Hope your daughter is ok?
Jayne
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