Well i havent posted for a while as i wanted to let things die down a bit as things got a bit heated
As most of you know we decided to get a second pup.....
Some were in favour some thought i was mad. I may recieve some 'told you so' but i have had a lot of lovely PM's from a few of you asking about how im getting on, how the pups are getting on and also some very lovely messages asking where iv been. So here is the story and i know that some will judge but at the end of the day I enjoy being on the site and i would like to share the story - Here is a shorter version as alot has happened in 14 days and i could be here for a very long time so i shall try and keep it to the facts .....
We got Riley almost 3 weeks ago, a gorgeous Tri Colour Cocker Spaniel with eyes that could melt any heart... He was gorgeous and OH fell instantly in love with him.
We introduced the two dogs with OH holding little Riley sitting on the floor and Diesel getting to approach the pup and say hello in his own time or way.
We both had time off work to try and make sure that the change went as smoothly as possible and to try and support each other over the following days.
Basically Diesel and the pup did Not get on. The pup wasnt allowed any toys, diesel got possessive over food and didnt let the pup go near the bowls, he grabbed all the toys off the pup and hid them where he couldnt get them. He became possessive over me not letting pup or OH near me without growling and going for them. He started barking all through the night, And was fighting with the pup constantly. It got to the point where we could not leave them in the room unattented. Diesel was getting aggressive towards the OH when he was trying to split the pups up. Diesel started biting the pup to the point where the pup was squealing, the pup started retaliating and it resulted in OH trying to seperate them, the pup bit onto Diesels ear and it started bleeding. Diesel then got worse as the first week past.
The last straw came when the two of them started fighting and OH was out (teeth on show, growling and no wagging tails) The pup had grabbed the side of diesels mouth and diesel started squealing, I was trying to split them up or at least grab one of them, Diesel then pinned the pup to the floor, and grabbed the pup by the neck, the pup was squealling and i had to physically remove diesels mouth from the pups neck.
At that point i had a pup that was in danger of being harmed if he was ever left alone with diesel, and diesel turning into a dog that was possessive, agressive, turning on the OH when he tried to split them up, Diesel Howling and scratching the door all night and wouldnt settle.
Even if the OH took the pup on his knee so that Diesel could come to me Diesel would just sit in front of OH and pup Growling and trying to grab him. He was always growling and refused to let anyone touch him or he would go for them constantly keeping the pup in sight and trying to grab at him.
I took the pup to the vet for a check up as after diesel had grabbed him the pups chest was .. trying to describe it .. but it was heaving like he had hiccups. The vet said the only way would be to have them both neutered but he said that the pup was very stressed. I spoke to OH and advised him that for the safety of the pup i didnt think it would be fair to keep him.
I spoke to the OH dad when he came up and advised him of what was going on - (OH Mum stopped visiting as she didnt want to witness them the way they were) his dad advised that if we didnt think that we would be able to keep the pup they would take him. They lost their King Charles 2 years ago and OH dad is medically retired and his mum works nightshift so someone would be available all day with the pup. They said that the pup had been brought into the family and it was not the pups fault that it was not working out and at least we could still see the pup and watch him grow.
So i made the choice to let the pup go to live with OH mum and dad. I honestly believe it was for the best. Diesel is getting back to his usual self, A bit unsettled still but not agrressive or possessive anymore. I have been visiting the pup at OH mum and dads everyday and he is so relaxed and settled and content with his toys. He is such an intelligent little thing, is fully house trained after 3 days there, he gets to sleep on The bed with OH mum and dad, he has learned how to go up and down the stairs, he asks to go for wees and just contents himself playing with his little rope toys and balls. He is starting to learn how to give a paw as well. He is so different to the pup we seen when we had him as he wasnt getting the opportunity to play and diesels behaviour was so extreme.
I am aware that this may have been a result of me getting the pup whilst diesel was so young. I am also aware that i may be shot down for this situation by fellow members. Like i say i just thought that everyone should know what has happened and why it has happened.
Please note that this has not been an easy decision, it broke my heart but has deeply upset the OH, he did not want the pup to go, not even to his Mum and Dads as he wanted them to get on so badly and had really taken a shine to the pup, I on the other hand had to do what was best for both dogs but primarily Diesel.
I just wanted to let you all know and to hear it from me.
Thanks Charlene