I agree with the "going with your instinct".
From day one after lots of research we used a crate with Jenson. He never liked it. We tried everything, positive reinforcement, treats, building up time slowly, nothing worked, he just hated being confined in there. The longest he ever lasted was 4 hours overnight when he was extremely exhausted, I was so sleep deprived.
About 2 weeks ago I was so tired I gave up and let him sleep on a pillow on the floor next to my bed. He slept all night, and so did I! ... and that is where he sleeps now, most nights he sleeps through from 11pm to 6.30 am which is so much better. I have left the crate in the kitchen and carried on using it with positive reinforcement as I wanted to be able to use it when we travel but he simply never goes in it unless I throw a treat in it. I have decided to pack it up and put it in the loft as its now taking up so much space.
Im sure crates work wonderfully for most dogs, and might have for us if I had persevered more, but exhaustion won out, and at the end of the day you need sleep, you have to do whats right for you. Good luck