Many thanks to all those who posted help, advice and encouragment over the past few weeks, all of it was appriciated.
Anyway we seemed to reach breaking point a fortnight ago when he drew blood from a neighbour
Luckily for us she was very understanding and brushed it off and actually spent time comforting me as I was in tears and seriously thinking enough was enough
So a good talk(read row) with hubby ensured we were both dealing with it the same way and he agreed on either getting outside help or facing up to returning Alfie.
As it happened, that weekend Alfie lost his four front teeth and since then, with us both working from the same rule book, no more bites
He still mouths and likes to chew on sleeves, but not a single bite. And I can ask him for a kiss without fear of losing my nose
Hes also getting the hang of not jumping up at all and sundry (ok so not everytime) but Im much more confident about him interacting with other people now
So once again thanks and just to let those who may be going through the same right now - there really is light at the end of the tunnel
If only me and hubby were reading from the same rule book we might have gotten there sooner