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Offline rubyduby

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What can I do????
« on: December 31, 2015, 09:03:41 AM »
My Nephews wife has just rehomed her lovely little Westie dog, because she has decided she wants a Spaniel, she has convinced everyone it is because it is a risk to her baby, because he has (apparently) nipped the baby (no marks) however she is SO concerned she is immediately looking for another dog...a spaniel, she has said many times she wish she had got dogs like mine, mine are two sister Cockers and have superb soft laid back temprments, due thro breeding and the fact they have been very loved and 'included' in all aspects of our lives. I know this is another of her phases, a month ago she acquired a horse which she gave away. I am terrified she will get another  dog to bullying, cage and boss around, she is obsessed with training. How the hell can I get the message out to local breeders/sellers to stop her getting one,. This lady is not playing with a full deck, and is a family member by marriage, so I am not just being vindictive. but genuinely concerned for the next poor mutt.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #1 on: December 31, 2015, 11:19:29 AM »
Another aspect of the awful modern"throw away and buy something else" culture, sadly its not limited to new three piece suits and kitchens every couple of years. Doesn't your nephew get a say? Can't you persuade him how inadvisable it would be? The only thing you could do is harp on about the negatives, i.e. spaniels need time, lots of grooming , love dirt ( :005:)!and need handling with patience, they don't react well to heavy handidness eirher. Of course all we cocker lovers know that that all the positves outweigh the negatives, but they're not  for everybody.
Sadly, if she's really determined, I fear there isn't an awful lot you can do except use the powers of persuasion. Confrontation will probably only make her more determined, you maybe need to come across as if you're doing her a favour. Best of luck, I really hope you can convince her that dogs aren't fashion accesories!
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #2 on: December 31, 2015, 01:01:27 PM »
Done all that, in fact said all that before she got the Westie, my Nephew doesn't get  a say, in fact he told her he didn't want a dog, so she went out and got one. he didn't help sulking and ignoring it when it first came. he is a wimp and I think she rules the roost!
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #3 on: December 31, 2015, 05:55:48 PM »
She is a very strange lady.
 Fancy getting rid of the dog and keeping the baby instead.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #4 on: December 31, 2015, 06:40:40 PM »
Quote from: MIN on December 31, 2015, 05:55:48 PM
She is a very strange lady.
 Fancy getting rid of the dog and keeping the baby instead.


 :rofl1: :rofl1:

same as these folk who go into a 'baby changing room' and come out with the same one  ;)
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #5 on: January 01, 2016, 03:27:02 PM »
 :005: :005:. I remember when I was expecting our first baby, a work colleague couldn't understand that I was still intending to keep our German Shepherd and asked what I'd do if they didn't get on or the baby developed an allergy. I replied that the dog was there first, so the baby would have to go  :005:. She wasn't amused!!!!  :lol2:
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2016, 10:40:07 AM »
Ah well this lady who can cope with a little Westie as acutally already bought a BOXER pup.....should prove interesting, she has already been given some advice on how to use a cage for it......she doesnt advice of animal cruelty..............
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #7 on: January 02, 2016, 11:58:48 AM »
You just cannot get through to some folks, shame for the boxer (the few I have seen while out are very friendly but a bit of a handful for their owners), but if she will not listen to reason, not much you can do I'm afraid.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #8 on: January 02, 2016, 02:27:48 PM »
She sounds a nightmare, people like her do the opposite to what sensible people advice.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #9 on: January 04, 2016, 04:58:10 PM »
I'd suggest that a Spaniel is only suitable for really "doggy" types.

They seem pretty demanding on exercise and training.
You can easily get behaviour problems that you don't see in Terriers.

I've always had Terriers before and the Spaniel is much more of a challenge but more interesting.
You do need lots of time for them, I think.

Much as I don't like them I'd suggest a Cockerpoo, they seem pretty soft and easy to me.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #10 on: January 04, 2016, 06:38:12 PM »
'Much as I don't like them I'd suggest a Cockerpoo, they seem pretty soft and easy to me'

That would depend on the cross I think. Both Poodles and Cockers can be hyper-active and if you got a cross of two of this kind, you may have more problems.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #11 on: January 04, 2016, 07:40:39 PM »
Quote from: Mudmagnets on January 04, 2016, 06:38:12 PM
'Much as I don't like them I'd suggest a Cockerpoo, they seem pretty soft and easy to me'

That would depend on the cross I think. Both Poodles and Cockers can be hyper-active and if you got a cross of two of this kind, you may have more problems.


My friend has a cockerpoo ... It's constantly " wired "  :005:
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #12 on: January 04, 2016, 08:27:32 PM »
I personally wouldn't suggest any breed of dog, cockerpoo or otherwise, this lady doesn't deserve a dog of any kind. Sorry is that really harsh?
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #13 on: January 04, 2016, 09:49:37 PM »
Quote from: Panda on January 04, 2016, 08:27:32 PM
I personally wouldn't suggest any breed of dog, cockerpoo or otherwise, this lady doesn't deserve a dog of any kind. Sorry is that really harsh?

No, I am in complete agreement.
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Re: What can I do????
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2016, 07:21:54 PM »
Well I agree she shouldn't get any dog, an now she has a three month old Boxer pup, and to add to that their marriage has broken down now and she will be on her own with 3 kids and the new dog....
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